tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327598978675535878.post5521874519198497813..comments2023-03-23T03:08:24.690-07:00Comments on Theology and Counseling: Insert Perfect Title HereDr. Corsinihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11401103560367914853noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327598978675535878.post-53612284681190911932011-03-23T19:54:36.897-07:002011-03-23T19:54:36.897-07:00I too have struggled with perfectionism. For me t...I too have struggled with perfectionism. For me though, it was realizing I had hurt parents who praised me when I performed well, and who criticized and put me down when i didn't. Since I was eight years old, I remember believing that I had to be perfect and the best on the basketball court not only to please my parents, but to feel valued and respected. I came to the USA not knowing any english and kids were really cruel and mean. As soon as I stepped on the basketball court though, I realized that the same kids that were making fun of me, were in awe at what I could do on the basketball court. It was then that i believed that in order to be viewed as someone important, and not be made fun of or criticized, I had to play perfect. I spent the rest of my life believing that lie, and working towards achieving the dreams that i was unable to accomplish which did bring a sense of feeling out of control and insecure. Having worked with a counselor for years, I realized the importance in recognizing when I believed certain lies, and having God replace them with his Truth. This has made all the difference!Erika Y. Valekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04868287949562356400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327598978675535878.post-44495403908248730142011-03-23T17:06:54.283-07:002011-03-23T17:06:54.283-07:00When I read your writings, I cannot help reading a...When I read your writings, I cannot help reading and rethinking about perfectionism. Especially at the moment when I read, “perfectionism, surprisingly, has little to do with the need to be perfect, and everything to do with the need to feel in control, to feel secure.” I totally agree to the sentence you feedback on Dr. Wilson. When I was a boy, controlling was big issue for me. I needed some help out of me with gentle and kind heart, even though I got easily upset and lost control of my mind. By God’s grace, I stepped out of controlling issue related to perfectionism. Reading your writing reminds me. Thank you for your good feedback and application.Jangsoon&Soyounghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12465976419022147253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327598978675535878.post-46763336607185194912011-03-23T17:05:14.921-07:002011-03-23T17:05:14.921-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jangsoon&Soyounghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12465976419022147253noreply@blogger.com