tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327598978675535878.post7319681133824623919..comments2023-03-23T03:08:24.690-07:00Comments on Theology and Counseling: The Gray DivorceDr. Corsinihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11401103560367914853noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327598978675535878.post-76387034111365641372010-11-04T20:49:59.714-07:002010-11-04T20:49:59.714-07:00One of my undergrad professors spoke about the inc...One of my undergrad professors spoke about the increase in divorce, which at the time was around 50%. He correlated the increase in divorce to the decrease in need for marriage. He stated that in the past people married out of necessity; women needed their husbands for financial support, and men needed their wives to take care of them and for children. Now people are marrying because they think they have found their soulmate, and when the good, happy feelings are gone they move on to the next.<br /><br />Reading this post reminded me of this lecture and made me think of how people really do want the freedom. Whether it is the lack of a need for their spouse in terms of financial support, or they lack small children. They have the freedom to choose and instead of focusing on what the union of marriage means, they focus on their own wants.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05553006709278650480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327598978675535878.post-57326304397393214702010-11-04T17:48:16.317-07:002010-11-04T17:48:16.317-07:00I do think it goes back to what Dr. Crabb said in ...I do think it goes back to what Dr. Crabb said in his book Effective Biblical counseling, our needs have to be met in Christ, that way we won't go around trying to fulfill the emptiness in our hearts and being frustrated all the time. Part of this people are also christians, and probably tired of feeling frustrated at their spouses all the time. When our focus is on God things are still hard, but now we have the right direction. And we will follow His directions believing He is in control. That focus can change a lot in me, first, and I can be a blessing to my spouse.Heyde Marqueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06935195604683480606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4327598978675535878.post-3876488827403172672010-11-04T10:25:12.924-07:002010-11-04T10:25:12.924-07:00Wouldn't be arguable the reason for a "gr...Wouldn't be arguable the reason for a "gray divorce" is also not just spiritual emptiness but also placed on society's fault. Today the majority of elderly people and our parents are Generation x-ers and they are constantly bombarded with messages from commercials and ads almost all of their lives that this world is about our selves and our needs not others. They got more of these kind of messages more than our generation or the baby-boomers. For the young people we get images from ads, commercials, and ideas that we need connection and relationships, though it maybe for self-gratification. For example, those magazines and ads (though openly admit I love the old spice commercials) tell us how to make a person fall for us so in turn we get some satisfaction. It is rather interesting that people that go through a mid-life crisis usually think about themselves and with the support of their spouse without improving the relationshiptheSpanielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00833565783023803468noreply@blogger.com