Attachment is a huge part in the development process of an individual. Our attachments with family structure and dynamics create an essence in defining our relationship with God. However, one's attachment towards God is based on personal history of life and experiences that describe the uniqueness in God attachment. According to Zahl and Gibson (2012), the distinction between individuals' doctrinal representations (head knowledge) and experiential representation (heart knowledge) of God determines; what one should believe God is like and what one personally feels God is like. God attachment is defined through avoidance and anxious attachment. It is described as avoidance in intimacy or anxiety about abandonment. Research shows that positive doctrinal representation (head knowledge) relates more to the avoidant attachment to God and positive experiential relates to the religious commitment and avoidant and anxious attachment of God. (Zahl and Gibson, 2012).
Humans long for relationship and to the world at large, we were made for relationships. It is quite normal and natural that people long for the supernatural help or look to God for a safe haven especially during times of stress and discomfort. According to Clinton and Straub 2010, The attachment style impacts how God is viewed. The types of attachment described are a) Secure: He is there, I can count on him. He will accept me, in spite of my flaws. b) Avoidant: He isn't there for me when I need him. I will have to go at life alone. I really need him. c) Ambivalent: I'm too flawed. God will surely reject me. I probably committed the unpardonable sin. d) Disorganized: I'm flawed, beyond repair. God will strike me down down if I turn toward him. He will surely reject or punish me. Furthermore, the worldwide phenomenon according to some researchers shows that "the range of responses to our internal attachment to God has a profound influence on the way we do relationships, intimacy, and life choices".
I believe that attachment style with the head knowledge of God and heart knowledge of God are all interconnected. The knowledge of God can either keep one closer or draw one further away from God. Knowledge in its beauty is sacred, however, can be dangerous. Attachment towards God through knowledge only lets you know something is there, it is visible. In contrast, the heart knowledge the experience and the intimacy of knowing God opens the door to see the invisible. Everything is rooted within the heart of a man and according to how one perceives a matter, that course determines the outcomes of things we come in contact with. Relationships need the supernatural force to take us beyond our visible self into the invisible. God attachment defines the type of a relationship an individual has with God. In conclusion, through the secure attachment or making changes in the attachment styles, the negatives to positives, a person is capable to work towards the selfless love, not just remain in the selfish realm of human relationships.