How to Raise the Men We’d Want to Marry

I came across an article on CNN titled How to raise the men we’d want to marry and I couldn't help but read it.

The author writes about raising children, and how raising a son to have a full emotional life is against societies belief of what a “real man” should be. She talks about how many believe a mother is not a suitable model for her son because boys are then taught to be too feminine instead of independent, masculine, and aggressive. When mother’s withdraw from their sons in an attempt to raise them with masculine traits, boys are not taught how to express their emotions in healthy ways.

This article brought me to Dr. Corsini’s last lecture, where he spoke about emotional regulation. He spoke about how the ability for someone to develop emotions comes from a variety of areas, including modeling in the family context. If mother’s are modeling behaviors that encourage their sons not to express their emotions in a healthy way, then they may be inhibiting their sons abilities to become emotional mature. This may be one of the ways that is hindering the ability for many to effectively develop emotions.

Although this article may seem as though it is focusing on raising boys to be good husband's, I believe that the author it making an extremely important point. Society is compelling us to believe that we need to raise our sons to be masculine, independent, and to not express emotions. Could this way of raising children, especially boys be resulting in men who are not capable of regulated emotions? I believe that we should not be afraid to have boys who develop and express emotions in a healthy way, as this will help in the process of emotional maturity.