Saturday, March 30, 2013

Controlling Your Emotions Before They Control You

I woke up Thursday morning irritable and frustrated with every little thing that was happening around me. I changed my outfit a minimum of 5 times. My siblings stared at me with horror as I ran around screaming and acting irrationally  It felt as if I was having a heat stroke with some side affects of an anxiety attack. As a woman I tend to suffer from those irregular days frequently however most of my friends do not express their irritability the way I do. I lashed out at my siblings as my emotions took control of my mind at least I felt they were. As I drove to call I was having to many feelings and I did not know how to sort them out. However God has a plan for everything. As I entered class, I prayed and tried to calm myself down from my heightened emotions. Dr. Corsini spoke about emotions and how some of us dampen, ignore, or heighten our emotions. Obviously I was the latter I have a tendency to heighten all my emotions. I basically wear my emotions on my face.  I was instantly drawn into his lecture. I felt like he was reading my mind with every word he said he dug a deeper hole into my emotions. My best friend and my sister were sitting next to me as my professor spoke they just stared at me and laughed. I have always had a problem learning to control my emotions and the article I found teaches you how to control your emotions. The objective of the article is to teach the reader how to control their emotions and to learn what stimuli trigger those emotions. The author gives a couple of stimuli that may trigger unwanted emotions such as personal finances, friends and all their problems, if you are a parents your children, the neighborhood someone lives in, the clothes you wear, your job, and sometimes your boss.
If any of these provokes your emotions you need to remove yourself from the situation that is causing you to have the unwanted emotions. First, step to control your emotions is to set aside a time for yourself to reflect and have some peace and quiet. Second, meditating as Christians it is vital that we learn to mediate on scripture and set aside a time for to talk to God and share with Him all that is overwhelming you. Visualize and control your emotions. Rely on Gods strength to get you through the overwhelming situation. This article has much information to offer those like myself who struggle with heightened emotions.
How this Applies to Christian Counseling?
            As Christian we must be empathetic to our clients situation. We will have clients that have been sexually abused and who suffer from emotional problems. If we have counselors do not control our emotions while counseling we can do great damage to our client’s mental health. We begin to experience countertransference, which is unhealthy for both the counselor and the client. 

You can read the article here.  


  1. Hi Keren,
    I sat behind you during class and I was wondering what you were giggling at. How divine is it that the good Doctor talked about emotions when you were struggling. Very cool and I’m very happy for you. You had a lot to say in your blog so I’m going to make this as short as possible, because I want to comment on everything but I can’t. It’s not my blog; it’s yours.

    I read the article you hyper-linked. It’s a good read and it contains very good advice. My favorite part is about Yoga and exercise. I enjoy Bikram Yoga thoroughly and it has taught me to calm my mind and body in the midst of stress (if any of you who are reading this have never done the standing bow-pulling or balancing stick poses, just trust me). This has helped me control some emotions.

    Lastly, I have been conditioned to think that emotions are bad and that when we respond to emotions that it is a sign of weakness. However, there’s a reason the God wants us to love him with all our, “heart, soul, strength, and mind” (Deuteronomy 6:5 and witnessed by the disciples). Granted, according to the five aspects of the immaterial self, this skips the conscience and spirit, but let’s assume that the three aspects mentioned include emotions. If we are to respond to God with all of our being, it’s hard for me to think that He doesn’t like emotions, which means that emotions are a good thing. Maybe I’ll listen to my own logic someday and show an array of emotions.

  2. I'm so glad you wrote on this too. I too found that lecture was talking to me. When we did the exercise with our classmates, it was so awakening the many different emotions we go through in a short period of time.

  3. Hey Keren,

    Your blog post has a lot of good points and I'd like add some of my own thoughts to it. I have a very hard time identifying my emotions, especially emotions that are related to things that bother me, because I tend to keep things that bother me to myself. For someone like me that has a hard time identifying and working with their emotions, I would need help from a counselor to not control my emotions but to be comfortable expressing them. Also,I feel that a lot of people are taught to not express emotions because they are a sign of weakness. I feel like this plays a huge role in my life and people like me when avoiding emotions.

    - Rusty


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