In an earlier post, one of my fellow classmates challenged
me to consider God attachment. I appreciated their post but really started
thinking about if it is possible for us to take Christ for granted because we
are so familiar with Him. Are we truly thankful every day for our relationship
with God? Do we take God for granted because of this God attachment which leads
to lazy detachment?
Tim Clinton and many others describe how God attachment can
be when a person goes to God in a troubling time. Clinton specifically looks at
four categories that a person relates to God in times of trouble:
1. Secure attachment when a believer can count on God and
God accepts them and all their flaws
2. Avoidant where God is not there for them when they need
him, and they don’t need him because he is not there
3. Ambivalent when a person is too flawed for God’s help
4. Disorganized when a person is flawed beyond repair and if
I turn to God, he will punish me.
However if you look at these four, only one is a positive
view of God, and ¾ look at God as a distant God. They “detach” from God because
either they are beyond help or God is too good to help out evil beings. Truthfully
though, this is how many of us view God, Christians and atheists alike
love/hate Jesus because he has become our “easy button.” Christians pray a
prayer to “Lord, help me on this quiz, help me have safe travels, help me to be
have a great day.” Atheists get annoyed that we pray for some frivolous things
and Christians don’t recognize that their prayers become one big wish list.
Christians take God for granted to fix every little thing and essentially make
Christ, a Christ of convenience.
After
reading some articles, I came across a study which concluded that some people
avoid intimacy with God, specifically to avoid God attachment. Their results found “We would expect
extremely negative views of God to be relatively rare in Judeo-Christian
populations. However we do believe that avoidance themes are present in
relationships with God, specifically, discomfort with depending upon God and
with emotional displays of affection toward God.” (p. 10) This specific article found
that there is a trend that people are avoiding God, for the fear of being
rejected by Him. Essentially their thought process goes “If I don’t pray or
depend on God, then I won’t be disappointed when he doesn't show up.” This is
the dramatic contrasting to how we need God for every little thing,Christ of convenience, (discussed above) versus the "I don’t need God at all because that means
I’m weak and dependent" perspective.
The true peace is found through the balance of both ideas in
a true relationship with God. We should find ourselves attached to God for the
relationship perspective, not the emergency situation. We should not use God
as an emergency plan as God attachment describes, or avoid him because he may
disappoint us. Would you like it if someone came to you and only talked to you
when they needed help? Would you rather have them have a long-term friendship
genuinely caring about you? God wants that relationship with you. Be attached
to God in a healthy way, not a Christ of convenience way. Through God
attachment, knowing He is always there, taking Him for granted, we have fallen
into a place of God detachment, where we go to God because we need something
from Him, not because of our relationship with Him.
We should pursue Him for the relationship. Instead of
looking at God as a “Christ of convince” an “easy button” when times are in
trouble, we should maintain a consistent relationship and trust Him, regardless of
our circumstances. Yes, God is a healer and a miracle worker
but He is not a one quick fix pill to all of our problems. He is our Savior
from destruction from our ultimate problem of sin. Philippians 2:1-11 talks about how our relationships with God and with others should reflect Christ's humility. My encouragement to you, do not take your relationship with God for granted, but rather treasure it.
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Great post! We as Christians often times use God as a cosmic vending machine. We only go to Him when we are in need of physical help. However, we need to realize our whole being is wrapped up in him (Col. 1:15-18; Acts 17:28). We need to see God as a loving father who wants to have a relationship with him. He is where true pleasure are everlasting (Psalms 16:11). Any other view of God is wrong and all we have done is made an idol out of our view of god. Seeing God as a cosmic-wish-list-granter is the wrong view of who God is.
ReplyDeleteI agree Zach, of only going to God when in need of physical help. I can admit that I've been guilty of this, especially when it is convenient…instead of pursuing Him for the relationship that He wants with us. Staying in communion with Him, even for simplest things, frees us from the bondage that daily rigor can provide. I’ve witnessed myself getting consumed in “stuff” and allowing it to take precedence over the commitment of time that God wants me to make. This was a good post that will allow me to constantly be evaluative of my relationship commitment with the Lord.
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