|Pastor Ed Young and wife Lisa spend 24 hours in bed atop of their |
large Evangelical church to challenge couples to have more sex.
This past Valentine's Day, Pastor Ed Young and his wife Lisa spent a full 24 hours together in their bed, which was hoisted onto the roof of their Evangelical church building in Grapevine, Texas, according to an ABC News article. The purpose of this demonstration was to challenge married Christian heterosexual couples to shed their prudish inhibitions and enjoy having sex every day for one week. According to the Youngs, many Christians are uneasy about sex and are not allowing themselves to enjoy what God has openly supported and encouraged. They even describe God as "pro-sex," and offer portions of Scripture discussing sex and sexuality in a very positive light, such as Song of Solomon 4:16 which is often interpreted as describing the act of oral sex: "Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits" (KJV). Pastor Mark Driscoll and his wife Grace from Seattle also offer insight into what Scripture says about topics such as sexual entitlement, pornography, lust, oral and anal sex, and masturbation.
A primary goal of Christian counseling is to help clients achieve mental health and wellness in every area of life including sexuality. As the article mentions, the issue facing many Christians is that they want to enjoy more frequent and satisfying sex but become hindered by inhibitions that are not Scripturally founded. So how can Christian counselors help these couples reach sexual health and wellness? To do this, one must understand sexuality as God designed. God intended humans to be sexual when He created them as male and female (Gen. 1:27). Attraction, arousal, and the ability to orgasm were hardwired into man and woman by God Himself. Furthermore, God created sex to be both physically and spiritually beneficial. Because humans are both material and immaterial beings, God designed sex to make husband and wife as one. Despite God's positive stance on sex, a long history of poor theology, oppressive sexism, and sexual immorality within the Church have warped the concept of sexuality for many Christians.
Christian married couples need not deny God’s gift of great sex any longer, nor be embarrassed or ashamed. Husbands and wives should feel free to offer themselves fully to each other, enjoy exploring and growing in their sexualities together, and find mutual sexual satisfaction. However, even with knowledge of how God views sex, some couples may still feel bound to their own perceptions of sex. If this is the case or if additional issues such as sexual dysfunction are involved, a Christian sex therapist or Christian marriage and family therapist may be able to help. With a proper Biblical framework, and perhaps the help of a Christian counselor, married couples can finally embrace God's gift of sex without inhibitions!