Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Rape and Attachment
The article http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2011/apr/30/rape-justice-after-20-years
talks about a woman who is now married with a daughter and living a fairly comfortable life. However, her life in college changed drastically. She was brutally raped during a party and her rapist never received a penalty because no one was willing to help her or even listen to her story. During a vacation, years later, a letter from her rapist arrived in the mail. Luckily, she was able to get justice for what happened years earlier through her contact with him. Her story is overwhelming, knowing that she was not able to receive help until years later. It is sad and shocking hearing that her college dean and the police department were not willing to help her. She had no where to turn.
This story reminds me of attachment because I am sure the rape impacted her life and the way she interacted with men and her husband. The incident could have impacted her religious beliefs as well. In class someone asked if it is possible for someone's attachment style to change during life. This lady may have had a great attachment growing up, but the rape could have very well effected her attachment to others. It would be interesting to see how, if at all the rape incident effected how she relates to others, as well as to God. I hope that she was able to receive counseling or some form of help in how she views the rape and is now feeling a sense of freedom from the incident. It reminds me that counselors are very much needed!