Dr. Sandra Wilson proposes an interesting question in her book, Hurt People Hurt People. "What sort of relationship do you have with yourself?" I find this question especially interesting as it is infrequently asked. I have seen the avoidance of this question in my own life as well as in the lives of others. One must, at some point, face the question, "Do I consider myself a friend or foe?" I believe that one's answer will be reflected in actions.
When I haved cosidered myself a foe (to myself) thn my actions show it. I have a lower self esteem, feel a sense of worthlessness and am less likely to be aware of others around me. However, when I considered myself a friend and am at peace with myself, then my disposition changes accordingly and I am more available to help others. I think it's important as Christian counselors to not only take a hard look at how one views oneslf, but also guide the client to recognize andaddress how he views himself. Although it is important to not get lost in introspection, careful self-examination has great value. As Dr. Wilson said, "We can't get help for problems we can't admit we have."