Sunday, February 27, 2011
Prejudice: when those I hate are the ones I need most
I was reading Live Science and I came across this article that was about the concept of displaced anger. Well maybe anger is too strong of a word. It is more like displaced feelings of ill-will. In the article they were saying how when people feel bad about themselves they have been proven to be more prejudice against others.
I thought this was very interesting in light of something that I read in Larry Crabb’s book called Connecting. The book Connecting is all about how we can all help each other with the things that we are going through if we just take the extra time to make connections with one another that are meaningful. In the book Crabb made a point that people that don’t know us that well tend to find the most to appreciate in us.
The thing is, this turns into an ugly circle. For me when I am feeling bad about myself the thing that makes me feel better the fastest is when others say appreciative things to me. However the people that know me the least are most likely to be appreciative of me but according to the article I would push these people away due to my prejudices when I need them the most. So how do you get out of the circle? Well I guess that is what Crabb’s book is all about. We have to connect.