In our counseling classes, we've heard recently about love languages, and apology languages (ways to better communicate your love and appolgies in a way that would be received best). Now this article presents that you can also pay attention to your "explanatory style," whether pervasive, permanent, or personal, and chose to change your thinking. This process reminded me of Neil Anderson's book The Bondage Breaker, as he suggests that we can win the battle for our mind. He discusses how our defense mechanisms are similar to what the apostle Paul calls strongholds, and need to be tore down. He challenges us to accomplish this by taking captive the lies that often scream at us in our minds, repent from believing them, and replace them with the truth of scripture.
This article really challenged me to take the lies or "explanations" that women (and I) believe, and replacing them with the truth. I felt that this article supported many discussions I have had in various classes wondering if "all truth is God's truth," and I would have to agree here. Some of the responses in this article are in line with scriptural truths, such as viewing yourself as loved, and trusting God's timing. This realization challenged me to not throw out all secular psychology, but rather see the truth in it as still coming from God. Similar to our class example of the blind men feeling different parts of an elephant, and gaining specific knowledge of each aspect that a seeing person would not have seen by standing back and shouting out "it's an elephant," I desire to read articles like this with a less initially critical spirit seeking to mine and learn from the nuggets of truth found with a filter of scripture. I can use this article to help change my pesimistic "why me" to and optimistic "someday," followed up by by the needed scriptural addition of, "if it is in His will."